Who’s really being weaned?

Well, my son has been fully weaned at seven months. I tried to do it slowly. I was planning to still nurse him in the morning and at night. It snowballed somehow. I guess we were  both just ready. He didn’t seem to be getting enough food and he was so distracted all the time that many feeding sessions had become an ordeal. Plus, he still bit me occasionally (although he had gotten much better about that).

He seems to be taking it pretty well, as far as I can tell. He accepts the bottle readily (He actually gets excited when he sees one.) and no longer gets confused and tries to go for both the breast AND bottle when I give him a bottle. I, however, am feeling a bit sad. I might still be able to go back, but I don’t think it’s the right thing. Still, the right thing isn’t always easy.

I will never breast-feed Max again. He has taken another step towards independence. I will find a way to make up for the closeness I felt when I nursed him. Until then, I am sad.


  1. Mom said,

    March 2, 2010 at 3:53 pm

    I’ve thought so much about this post this morning and it takes me back in time to when I had to wean you. I was eight months pregnant with Chase when the doctor said I had to quit nursing you. Of course, you were a toddler and could talk quite well. I can remember how sad I was that night as we lay in the bed together and I told you you couldn’t nurse anymore and you told me that yes, you could nurse, like I thought you had forgotten how. I felt so disloyal to you somehow, even though I knew realistically that it was the time for you to quit so we could make room for your soon-to-be born brother. (He started causing trouhle for you right off the bat!) You were such a good, sweet baby and and adjusted much better than I did. Only another mother can know what it feels like to give that up, and so today I grieve with you for having to give up that special closeness and bond that you have forged over the last months with Max. Love you, Mom

    • kittymomma said,

      March 3, 2010 at 1:38 am

      Thanks, Mom. 🙂 I love that story.

  2. Tiffany said,

    March 4, 2010 at 3:34 pm

    As you know, nursing never went well for Josh and me. I guess there was a bond there but mostly feeding him was an issue instead of a pleasure. I can assure you, however, that there is an even greater bond to come. So far, the best is the first time I returned to him and was greeted with a delighted “Mommy” as he ran to hug me. I understand your sadness but no worries about your mommy/son bond! 🙂

  3. April 8, 2010 at 11:53 am

    The thought of weaning R fightens me to no end. Thank you for sharing this story.

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